Laura on December 09, 2011: Yet I am supposed to believe he can't remember … There is no clear cut cure, but there are strategies … I just wish I could remember. I don’t know what to do. He can't remember anything I say. Posted Mar 16, 2015 | Reviewed by Lybi Ma Dementia patients have trouble remembering important dates and events and often ask for the same information repeatedly. Especially about sex. I stay hurt and confused because he refuses to talk about it and be transparent. Celebrating the healing of myself and my identity. Betrayed. ADHD comes to mind to me as well. Recent Topics   My wife is an attractive woman and he was hitting on her. After the literal hell he has put me and our children through, I deserve the truth. My husband and I just went through several months of testing for this very issue. Expert. Curious as to what it would be like to have sex with another person. What she finally opened up to me the other day was that she has been "curious." Alumnus. See a good neurologist. Husband can’t remember ANYTHING, Re:Is there hope for us? Just need to vent, I just can't stand my husband, most of the time (99% of the time). Seeking God's grace to find meaning and purpose in the pain. Husband can’t remember ANYTHING, https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/alzheimers-disease/in-depth/memory-loss/art-20046326?pg=2. Why can't I remember anything? If it is done intentionally, it is avoiding, if it is unintentional then your defense mechanisms are limiting your awareness and recall of the events in order to protect either you or others. I go in for a kiss and he pulls away or he … There was more when I found out more info that he just remembered one day. Over 20 years specializing in infidelity recovery helping 2,000+ couples. Author of Keep Walking: 40 Days to Hope and Freedom After Betrayal. Talk it out. my wifes 1st affair happened a long time ago but my gosh she doesnt remember anything but that they had sex but cant remember anything at all about how or why.. i said hey you know you might not have even had sex with them if you dont remember anything.. no i know i did but i just dont remember it.. I’m in the same boat 20 years later. Betrayed. My husband Shawn won’t talk to me, he won't come home, he acts like he doesn’t know who I am or anything. 20 years later still extremely anxious and frustrated. He remembers having a beer and swimming briefly but nothing else. For answers. That night, the wife disclosed to me that she had just had a miscarriage at twelve weeks-the men weren’t paying attention because they were having their own conversation. Everyday. And I couldn't keep ignoring it. Thanks. Just before our 9 year anniversary she started kissing him. We've been a happily married couple for a long time and during the time of her affair, we were both caught up in new jobs and new experiences but that still doesn't excuse her having an affair. Grateful for God's love and grace. Alumnus. I laughed. I found out she never TRIED to fight off temptation but invited it on, it still gets me so angry. Write it all down. Alumnus. Alumna. I knew she had been changing and I head some hints here and there but I never imagined she was having an affair. Shortly after our anniversary, they began having sex during work on their breaks and after work in their cars. Hope and healing are possible for anyone willing to work through the pain. I do remember every day he would kiss me goodbye and say "I love you". Now as we all know things were already in the works before. For the hundreds of daily details: lists. And now finally, after so much gaslighting and denial he admits to the affair but isn’t able to answer many of my questions. I'm no angel though, I admit. She tells me she'll never have an affair again because she knows how bad a mistake it was and partly because she doesn't have curiosity anymore. Consider sexual experiences with a long-term partner. Is he getting an optimal amount and/or quality of sleep? So basically, my wife is remorseful and feels horrible for what she did and how much she hurt me, but, part of why she did it was because she was "curious." It sounds strange, but narcissists seem to be able to change their ‘reality’ of things they do and say. Ugh!!! I have been frustrated for the past 2 years with my two kids living without my husband who surprisingly left home with a girl named Rose. Betrayed. We have a one year old so we were a little hypersensitive about it. How would it feel to know you are on the way to a hotel to have sex with someone else for the first time in 31 years (for me.. 29 years of marriage and 2 years of dating) that would be very exciting! Thank you for sharing your experience. We discussed strip clubs and we both felt it is not cheating (which will be different for every couple). Moving forward these 5 months have been obviously up and down with the highs and lows on both our parts. Submitted by MFrances on 01/07/2014. I had temptations that i took very serious and squashed early on because i knew i might not have been ateong enough if i let it go farther.  Back to home page. I found out that my wife of 9 years, together for 14 years, was having a sexual affair with a coworker. Then a friend told me that’s how her DH acted (plus other similar symptoms) and it turned out to be adhd and treatment helped. Yet I am supposed to believe he can't remember how many times he made a mockery of our marriage. I told my husband about this on the way home, and we had a long discussion about it. He doesn’t instigate physical intimacy. Even people who are bad with names, come up with mnemonics or rolodexes to help them, if they care to. She's a nurse and spent long hours 3-4 times a week with this guy. Our free Affair Analyzer provides you with insights about your unique situation and gives you a personalized plan of action. Betrayed. Dealing with their spouse’s personal effects (clothes, tools, etc.) Betrayed. Betrayed. My wife just says “i dont remember” before i even finish my questions! He has just decided it isn't important, or isn't his job to know. Alumna. I got so traumatized on that experience that I erased it in my memory. Jun 29, 2016 - Explore Lona Tate's board "Remembering my husband!!! In Isaiah 43:25 He says, “I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more.” This is really amazing when you think of it.